Over 65% of my research is done and this is my opinion about marriage - It is a union for convenience. It maybe for economic, cultural or emotional. In the past it seems to have been predominantly for economic and cultural convenience, fed by the need to expand one's own community and sustained by the ability to procreate. Then later on, encouraged by our human trait to find meaning in actions, marriage came to be a ceremonial significance of 'eternal love' for each other - the emotional convenience.
Yet the amusing thing about us human beings is that we can sustain living neither with our own-selves alone, nor with a family or a community or a person. Why because, on one hand, loneliness is like an empty vessel. It makes too much noise in our head and keeps reminding us of how disconnected we are from social beings, and how much probably are we missing out by way of that. On the other hand, with every 'interconnected' relationship outside of wedlock, our only approach seems to be:
"You need not love me. Probably you will not love me. But at least do not hate me."
(dialogue flicked from a movie and rephrased)
And finally with those locked in a marriage - we either love each other or hate each other, anything in between is a frustration.
Probably this is the reason why friendship is always the best. It is one relationship where we know each other's space, give each other that space and accept each other without any expectations. This thus enables sustenance to live together, with contentment.
Regardless, my question is, what is wrong in viewing marriage as a an act of convenience? People who genuinely embrace loneliness are in the minority. The rest just seem to be so confused with all the global influence. Their brain seems to be in constant state of indecisiveness, bombarded by many 'life-altering' questions such as - Is this love? I love him, but do I love him to the extent that I want to marry him? I love her and I want to marry her. And then later on, oh shoot! Love is fading away! Should we start doing stuff' 'together', to keep it alive?
I mean why go through all this melodrama? It seems more pragmatic to view marriage as an act of personal convenience rather than judging it through the lens of love or perceiving it as a license for sex.
Yet the amusing thing about us human beings is that we can sustain living neither with our own-selves alone, nor with a family or a community or a person. Why because, on one hand, loneliness is like an empty vessel. It makes too much noise in our head and keeps reminding us of how disconnected we are from social beings, and how much probably are we missing out by way of that. On the other hand, with every 'interconnected' relationship outside of wedlock, our only approach seems to be:
"You need not love me. Probably you will not love me. But at least do not hate me."
(dialogue flicked from a movie and rephrased)
And finally with those locked in a marriage - we either love each other or hate each other, anything in between is a frustration.
Probably this is the reason why friendship is always the best. It is one relationship where we know each other's space, give each other that space and accept each other without any expectations. This thus enables sustenance to live together, with contentment.
Regardless, my question is, what is wrong in viewing marriage as a an act of convenience? People who genuinely embrace loneliness are in the minority. The rest just seem to be so confused with all the global influence. Their brain seems to be in constant state of indecisiveness, bombarded by many 'life-altering' questions such as - Is this love? I love him, but do I love him to the extent that I want to marry him? I love her and I want to marry her. And then later on, oh shoot! Love is fading away! Should we start doing stuff' 'together', to keep it alive?
I mean why go through all this melodrama? It seems more pragmatic to view marriage as an act of personal convenience rather than judging it through the lens of love or perceiving it as a license for sex.
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